My Visualisation Technique to Let Go of Upsetting Thoughts

My Visualisation Technique to Let Go of Upsetting Thoughts

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My Visualisation Technique to Let Go of Upsetting Thoughts

Having light in life is not easy. Shadows dement us more than we admit.

What makes you angry? Who makes you upset? Are old memories crashing all the gates you had once successfully put up? Are the worries of your future keeping you up all night? As a perennially stressed out millennial who is the victim of the universe’s constant flow of negative energy, I can say that I feel all these, often. Too often, actually. And while it is starkly noticeable more often that I am comfortable with, people also notice my smile and my energy. So, is that a facade? Well, I can proudly say that most of the times, it is not.

There’s a simple process to let go of negative thoughts: visualisation. I remember how, in “Jab We Met”, Geet (Kareena Kapoor) taught a heartbroken Aditya (Shahid Kapoor) to get over his former girlfriend by flushing her picture down the toilet. I don’t know if this method stayed in my subconscious mind, but I came up with a similar method, rather accidentally, while trying to get over the thoughts of a former friend – I visualised wiping off the person’s image from my mind using an eraser. Later, I realised that this is a valid form of letting go of people or things when, in an episode from The Big Bang Theory, Penny (Kaley Cuoco) taught Sheldon (Jim Parsons) to imagine is anger as a pen, and then let go of it.

My Visualisation Technique to Let Go of Upsetting Thoughts   

More often than I have cared to count, I have wished I could Shift-Del certain thoughts from my mind – thoughts of hurtful people I have invested in, thoughts of humiliating moments, thoughts that make me want to curl into a ball or hurl a brick at every breakable thing in front of me. Resorting to the visualisation technique has helped. They say that when angry, Capricorns resort to silent treatment, while Aquarians consider the person dead. While I don’t believe in horoscope-based personality traits, I can’t help notice that as a cross between Aquarius and Capricorn, both of these reactions fit my personality perfectly, as I let go of toxic people and thoughts easily, never to look back.

I MUST add here that I am NOT a professional in any area of psychology, psychiatry, counselling, etc. Visualisation technique to let go of upsetting thoughts is like a homemade remedy. It’s not a replacement for expert opinion. In addition, it is important to mention that there are various visualisation techniques, developed and perfected by experts, and you will probably find many of them online. My technique is one that I have developed myself, and it works for me. So this is strictly based on personal experience. I decided to pen this down when a friend mentioned that she is struggling with some aggravating thoughts.

It’s a simple method, along with some additional activities.

1. Find a quiet place where you’re alone.

2. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath.

3. Now, think of what has been bothering you. If you are upset with a specific person whom you don’t want anymore in your life, imagine having a photograph of the person in front of you. If it is a situation that you’re upset with, or a moment that’s bothering you, visualise the situation first, and then, just imagine a single still moment of this circumstance, like a snap of the moment.

4. Next, imagine you have an eraser in hand.

5. Now, start erasing this “picture” of the situation or the person making you angry. Keep erasing, vigorously, meticulously, till the sheet in front of you is completely white.

6. Take a few deep breaths again. Let yourself believe in the fresh, white sheet in your mind. Open your eyes as you keep taking deep, calming breaths.

I also have an alternate visualisation technique.

For this, you have to associate your negative feelings with an object in your mind. You can imagine that your sadness or anger is a glass bowl. Then, in your head, throw the object away. This way, you not only let go of your negative thoughts, but also express your anger or frustration by destroying the glass object, thus helping yourself to come to terms with them, instead of bottling them up inside.

Personally, I find it the second technique slightly difficult, as I can’t wrap my head around the idea of imagining my feelings as an object. In any case, I feel that we have pictures running about in our minds all the time. Whether it’s an old memory, the face of the person who hurt us, the moment we curled up in a ball and cried, or some incident that’s nothing but a prediction or assumption, we can always put it in a frame in the mind – and then erase it away.

Follow it up with happiness-inducing practices and affirmations.

If things don’t work in a single go, then you can try the visualisation techniques to relax and let go of negative thoughts, repeatedly. I believe that the most important prerequisite for the visualisation technique to work is the desire to let go and free yourself. End the exercise with a deep breath; then, follow it up with something that keeps you engaged and makes you happy, like painting, writing, or just working.

Besides using imagery to move beyond anger, sadness and other negative thoughts, you can also try affirmations. These are positive quotes that confirm that something beautiful and positive is happening in your life, now, that you are happy, and your dreams are coming true. I downloaded a list of them, in the form of images; then, I made a collage out of them, which is the wallpaper on my phone and computer. I read them to keep calm and positive. When I believe in these affirmations, it seems that the universe is conspiring to make them happen.
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Affirmations to Believe Good Things Are Happening

I would like to conclude by saying that if you’re dealing with negative thoughts or mental health issues, or contemplating self-harm, you should speak to a professional. I’m not implying that having a fleeting moment of anger or sadness, or being flooded with memories means you need professional help, nor is it a reason to diagnose yourself with clinical depression or anxiety or any other mental health issue, it is also not a good idea to keep mum for too long about your troubles. If you think you cant bring yourself to the place where you want to let go, then you can perhaps get in touch with AASRA, a helpline to deal with depression and suicidal thoughts, at 022 2754 6669.

[My Portrait – clicked by Sushmita Ganguly.
Sky Image – clicked by Yours Truly. 
Affirmations – Stock Images.] 
 

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